Building confidence in the water and overcoming fear as a female surfer
- Woman Explore
- Mar 7
- 3 min read
For many women, surfing is more than just an activity—it’s an opportunity for growth, empowerment and connection with the ocean. Yet, stepping into the water can feel intimidating, whether you’re a beginner or looking to refine your skills. Fear of the unknown, of falling or of not being “good enough” can hold women back from fully embracing the experience.
But confidence in the ocean, much like confidence in life, isn’t something you either have or don’t—it’s something you build. With the right mindset, strategies and support, you can move beyond hesitation and start surfing with trust in yourself and your abilities.
Understand and Acknowledge Fear
Fear is a natural response to new challenges, and surfing is no exception. Whether it’s fear of deep water, big waves, or stepping out of your comfort zone, the key is to recognise it without letting it control you. Even experienced surfers have moments of doubt—what sets them apart is how they manage those feelings. Instead of viewing fear as a roadblock, reframe it as a sign of growth. Every time you paddle out, you’re pushing past self-imposed limits and expanding your capabilities.
Train Your Mind: The Power of Visualisation and Breath work
Before entering the water, take a moment to breathe deeply and visualise yourself surfing with confidence. See yourself paddling strong, catching waves and moving with ease. Research shows that mental rehearsal can help train your body to follow through with success.
Breath work can also be a game-changer in calming anxiety. Simple techniques like slow, deep breaths before paddling out can help regulate nerves and keep you focused.
Progress at Your Own Pace
Confidence isn’t built overnight—it’s the result of consistent, achievable progress. Instead of pushing yourself into conditions that feel overwhelming, start where you feel challenged but not paralysed by fear.
Spend time in small, manageable waves before progressing to bigger surf
Focus on mastering basic techniques before chasing advanced maneuvers
Celebrate small wins—each successful ride builds momentum and belief in yourself
Learn from the Right People
Guidance from experienced coaches can make a world of difference. Having someone break down technique, offer encouragement and provide structured progression allows you to build skills in a supportive, low-pressure environment. At Woman Explore, we create surf retreats designed for real, tangible progress, ensuring that every woman—regardless of experience—feels supported and empowered in the water.
Develop Ocean Awareness
Understanding how the ocean moves, how waves break and how to position yourself can reduce uncertainty and give you a greater sense of control. Take time to observe before paddling out, notice patterns, and familiarise yourself with different conditions. Knowledge creates confidence.
Find Your Surf Community
Surfing doesn’t have to be a solo journey. Being surrounded by other women who share your goals, fears, and breakthroughs can provide a massive confidence boost. Whether through structured retreats, surf lessons, or supportive surf friends, having a community that encourages and celebrates progress makes all the difference.
Embrace Falling—It’s Part of the Process
Many women fear failure—both in the water and in life. But in surfing, falling is learning. The more comfortable you become with falling, the less intimidating it feels. Instead of seeing wipeouts as setbacks, view them as stepping stones toward mastery. Learn how to fall safely, laugh off mistakes, and get back on your board with even more determination.
Shift Your Inner Dialogue
Confidence starts from within. If your internal monologue is full of self-doubt and hesitation, it will reflect in how you surf. Flip the script and replace negative thoughts with empowering affirmations:
“I am improving every time I get in the water.”
“I belong here.”
“Fear is just a feeling—I won’t let it define me.”
Trust the Process
Confidence isn’t about being fearless—it’s about learning to manage fear and move forward anyway. With time, patience and the right environment, you’ll notice yourself becoming more relaxed, capable, and in control in the water.
The ocean is not just for the fearless—it’s for the women who show up, face their doubts, and paddle out anyway. And that woman is you.
